Proper planning. It is what separates the pros from the rookies. Well, maybe just the pros from the average. Without it, you’re just gambling. And your goal should be to remove gambling from the equation. Now, let’s discuss how to properly plan for your interactions with women. The very first thing that every guy needs to do is address the core issues that he has with himself. For me, I had to confront and come to terms with my ex-wife and dying child. Before that, I just didn’t want anything to do with anyone. I pretty much kept to myself and found it hard to really just enjoy myself around people. In short, I was severely depressed. Without addressing those issues, I wouldn’t be where I am today.

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For some of you, you may have a problem with your confidence. Maybe you’re afraid of confrontation? Maybe you are afraid to stand up to your parents? Maybe you are afraid of being alone? Maybe you are terrified of awkward social interactions. The point is until you address these core issues head on, you are not ready to be a successful pick-up artist. Address these issues and then come back.

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Secondly, you must remove yourself from the environment that is causing you harm. For instance, some of you have friends that have a certain image of you, and they’d prefer you stay that way. And in turn, it is incredibly difficult for you to change because you have been accustomed to playing your assigned role. As long as you remain in the same environment, you will continue the same habits, and it will be very difficult for you to change.

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Next, you need to handle all of the external factors. This includes your appearances, logistics, cool places to take people, and just getting a social life in general. Just everything that has nothing to do with your personal mental blocks or your conversations with women. These external factors don’t need to be perfect, just presentable. You don’t have to be a perfect 10, you don’t have to be the most popular guy, and you don’t have to be able to take people to five star restaurants. Just things that say you have a normal, presentable lifestyle.

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Continuing, as an inexperienced guy, you just need a general in-field gameplan; something simple. The purpose is to get your feet wet, not overwhelm you, and get you the occasional lay. You also need to be documenting every outing, as this is what you will use to analyze where you stand, and what you need to correct. Again, until you get your core issues addressed, documentation won’t stand for much. Why? Because documentation doesn’t really show whether you are really confident, afraid of confrontation etc. Documentation is really only useful when you already have a healthy mental state of mind. Otherwise, you end up with a bunch of field reports where no one can help you, not even yourself. No one can read your field reports and tell that you’re weak minded, easily frightened, out of place or whatever. And chances are, you don’t see it. However, what you do know, is what areas of your life that you have issues with, such as always trying to appease people etc.

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Now, at some point, it’s going to feel great getting the occasional lay, but you’re going to want to get laid with more consistency. So consistent that you feel every night that you go out, you can pull. First, you’re going to have to remove your ego. From my experience, once a guy gets a fair amount of field experience, he thinks that he can’t take advice from anyone but God. This destroys guys. Yeah, it feels good talking about the “AFC’s” or whatever, but guess what? Until you learn to listen to people, you are average, at best. I was talking to The Peacemaker, and I believe the reason that he and I got so good and surpassed everyone, is because we know how to listen. Now, we both have very huge egos, but we know how to remove them from the equation when necessary. If someone has some useful advice based on their actual field experience, we are more than willing to listen. In fact, he and I constantly talk about things that we can do differently. It’s never “I am the more experienced guy, so you listen to me and I don’t want any of your input on me because you are not God.”.

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Once you learn to take the advice from other men with actual experience getting laid, you can start implementing the said advice into your already existing simple game plan. You’re going to start to see minor changes that work in your favor, but at some point, you’re going to want even better consistency.

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